Sunday, November 13, 2011

{day four: four confessions}

***Note: I am currently doing a 7 day blog challenge, where I blog based on writing prompts from this post***

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None of these are very flattering...but confessing awesome things doesn't make much sense, does it?  :o)
1.  I have pretty bad road rage I am the driver that will put her car half in the right lane and half on the shoulder to prevent other cars from passing on the shoulder in a traffic jam.  I will stop my car in the middle of the street so that you cannot go any further if you are driving the wrong way on a one-way street.  I do not normally use much profanity, but I curse like a sailor in the car by myself.  At other drivers.  Bad drivers.  I will give dirty looks and have been known to flash the middle finger in extreme circumstances.  Shameful, I know.
2.  I am a closeted Garrison Keillor fanatic.  If you have no idea who Garrison Keillor is, then never mind.  If you do you might be surprised that I love his novels.  They are not really what you learn to love as an English Literature major in college.  His stories gently poke fun at midwesterners and tend to be very tongue-in-cheek.  Usually I go for pretty dark, very metaphorical literature.  Keillor is just fun...and he reminds me of my home state of Minnesota.
3. I believe in ghosts.  Or perhaps it was an angel.  In any case, when I was eight years old I saw an apparition in broad daylight in a cemetery, no less.  It was only for about five seconds, then I looked away to tell my friend to also look up and see the elderly woman, bathed in sunlight, reaching down and touching a gravestone.  By the time my friend looked up the hillside towards where I was pointing the woman was gone.  I have never seen anything like it since, and I don't know why I saw it then, but it thrills me to know I got that glimpse of the "other side."
4. I have chronic depression.  Now before you start feeling sorry for me...don't.  I don't "confess" this for any type of sympathy, but to perhaps bring to light that depression is more common than most realize.  Also, a person with depression is not necessarily an unhappy person.  In general, I am very happy.  I love my life, and find great joy in many things.   Depression, for me, does not stem from any sad event that has happened in my life, but is simply something genetic that I've always dealt with.  Sometimes, for absolutely no reason at all, I feel sad and perhaps a little hopeless.  Call it a funk with no situation that caused it.  It might last several days.  I will first sit and try to figure out why I feel sad.  When I come to the conclusion I have nothing to feel sad about I realize it is just my depression kicking in.  Depression, depending on the severity and situation, is treated various ways.  Though I have contemplated medication over the years, I am personally not a fan of taking pills.  So instead of medication, I have learned what works for me.  One major thing is exercise.  I run or I go to the gym.  I work out a lot...always have, for this reason.  It makes me feel really good, no matter how bad I felt before I started.  I try to eat fairly healthy, and include food that are known to be "mood-boosting."  I also spend time outside and try to take in a lot of natural light...although even ten minutes in a tanning bed helps!  Sometimes I just need to ride it out...curl up in bed, perhaps have a good cry, armed with the knowledge that I will always feel better in a day or so.   I also find that writing helps -- I will pour my feelings out into my journal and usually then I can look at things more objectively...or at least I feel that I have gotten a lot off my chest.  I have learned to be open about my depression with loved ones.  I simply tell my husband how I am feeling, so he knows it is not him or anything else...it is just the depression.  This is something that has taken me a long time to be able to do.  When I was a kid I didn't understand depression, because no one talked to me about it.  I am pretty thankful that at a fairly young age I was able to acknowledge there was something wrong, seek counseling, and be strong enough and self-aware enough to choose a plan of action that would work for my circumstances.  I think every person is faced with hurdles in their life and you can either stop running forward or learn to leap.


See...told you it would get deep. :D
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Saturday, November 12, 2011

{day three : five things you hate}

***Note: I am currently doing a 7 day blog challenge, where I blog based on writing prompts from this post***


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Hate is such a strong word.  I'd like to think these are things I strongly dislike.  I really don't like being negative on my blog, but I guess this is my opportunity to vent unapologetically.  So, I "hate"...

1. Clutter.  I refuse to watch even a moment of Hoarders because it will give me a tick and most likely an anxiety attack.  I am a tosser.  I will get rid of anything that is not serving a specific purpose.  I have to either use it or LOVE how it looks or it is gone.  I think there is a saying "Cluttered house, cluttered mind" and it applies to me.  I remember in college I could only do my studying if my workspace was clear and it was perfectly quiet.  I like things very simple, very tidy, very organized.  When I am stressed, I clean and end up taking a bunch of stuff to Goodwill.  Makes me feel liberated.

2.  Stray cats in my neighborhood.  Call me an evil person, but the fact that people constantly leave food out for stray cats, thus causing them to live in our neighborhood, thus causing them to poop in my flowerbeds, thus causing them to breed more illegitimate kittens, has me steaming mad.  Did I mention they poop in my flowerbeds?  I like cats, if they are contained and cared for by actual owners.  I can't let my dog roam free and poop wherever he wants to.  Plus, if there were stray dogs everywhere the local animal control would be out regulating in a heartbeat.  For some reason they ignore the growing population of unclaimed felines.  Stepping off my soapbox now...wait, no I'm not...

3.  Unrealistic expectations of beauty.  There is not one type of beautiful.  For example, skinny does not = beautiful.  There are beautiful skinny girls,  but as women we have to be careful that we do not try to dictate what constitutes beauty.  The truth is: beauty comes in all forms.  You can be short and curvaceous or tall and very thin, and both can be beautiful.  This is one of the fears I have about having a daughter...that some ignorant person will remark to her that skinny=pretty {or tall or voluptuous} and she will either strive desperately her whole life to achieve that very superficial goal, or will simply feel bad about herself if her body type is not what one person thinks it should be.  As women we need to build each other up, strive to be healthy, and watch our words.  Beautiful can be any size.


4. Mean girls.  Specifically those that cut down other females behind their back.  I tend to tune out when I hear one woman insult another woman who is not there to defend herself.   I have had people that I've not liked, but I will not say nasty things about them to other people.  It screams insecure.  Plus, I know how much it can hurt, because I've had some extremely nasty things said about me.  If someone really has an issue with another person and want it resolved, they should confront that person like an adult.  Otherwise, end the relationship and quit talking about them behind their back.  It's not flattering.

5.  Debt.  I have no interest in paying interest on anything besides our house...and even that isn't very appealing.  I'm perfectly okay driving a modest vehicle, buying my clothes at Target, and living in a house that requires a much smaller mortgage than what a bank will approve us for...if it means we have no debt and are living well below our means.  Less stressful that way.   Guilt-free vacations that way.  Earlier retirement that way.  Happier marriage that way.

Wow -- that felt good!
Thanks for letting me rant!
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Friday, November 11, 2011

{day two : six things you love}

***Note: I am currently doing a 7 day blog challenge, where I blog based on writing prompts from this post***

There are the obvious things...my husband, my baby, God, family.  Let's skip those.  They know it, and it is not a challenge for me to write about my love for them.  For this post I tried to think of more revealing loves.
1. I love light. 
Ever walked outside, stopped mid-stride, closed your eyes and faced directly into the sun, soaking in the warmth for a moment?  I do this regularly.  People probably think I'm nuts.  I have never been officially diagnosed, but I'm pretty sure I have seasonal affective disorder.  I need light.  I realized this fact very keenly since becoming a stay-at-home mom.  For the past 15 years I have worked jobs in which I've been bathed in fluorescent light for 8+ hours a day.  Now I spend the majority of my day indoors...and I realize the value of light.  In the morning I turn on all the lights.  I frequently have to go on walks outside with the baby, whether it is sunny or not, just to be in the light.   Too much darkness and I get very down!

2. I love being alone.
I am not a person who likes a ton of people around me.  In fact, crowds sometimes give me a bit of anxiety {oh yes, the list of neuroses goes on, and on, and on...} Like the light, I also need time by myself to be in balance.  When I was a teenager I would come home from school and literally spend hours walking around the perimeter of our woods, just thinking about life.  It's hard to get alone time these days, but a couple days a week my husband takes the baby for a few hours at a time so I can venture out on my own, to wander solo with my thoughts...and very often a latte.

3. I love photography.
My love for photography began way before I started blogging.  Years before I owned my DSLR {with which I'm still shooting on the automatic setting.} Before I took art history classes in college and learned about composition, light, and subject matter.  I have always loved pictures.   I would pore over my older sisters snapshots of her and her friends, and spend hours sifting through my mom's trunk of old photographs.   My love for photography began as soon as I owned my first camera.  I would cry at Kmart if my 35mm film that I had waited two whole days as it was sent to the lab to get developed somehow came back "damaged..." meaning I had loaded it incorrectly or it had gotten wet or some other tragedy that meant none of my photos would ever come to be.   Yes, I would literally cry tears of grief over lost photographs.  It made me feel like the stories told on the film perhaps never happened.  Even now I kick myself if I realize I forgot my camera.   They often show the photographer's perspective of life.  Photographs can tell a story that often words cannot adequately convey.

4. I love oddballs.
In a world where people try to fit in, blend in, appear as though everything is perfect...I am drawn to those who will openly show their inner oddball.   Who don't seem to care too much what others think.  Those who admit their life has some crappy aspects...and they are OK with that.  I love an odd fashion sense {even though I dress pretty conservatively.}  I love a off-beat sense of humor.   I even have a little oddball in me...and I am so thankful to have my husband, my best friend, with whom I feel completely comfortable being as odd as I want to be.  

5. I love flowers.
Not in the sense that I love receiving flowers {though, of course, I do.}  I love flowers because they are art.  Flowers are art without even trying.   I am always in awe of the subtle ways in which God shows his awesomeness through creation.  Flowers are my favorite subject matter in photography {read: they are very easy to photograph...naturally beautiful and they don't move!}

6. I love reinvention.
If you know me, you know I like to move.  Literally.  While single I lived in more apartments than I can count, and my husband and I are already on our second home, contemplating a third...and we've only been married four years.  I love taking a space and making it my own.  I love painting walls.  I love change.  I have no problem changing the cut or color of my hair.  I feel no attachment to any particular city.  I am a firm believer in the saying:  "If you don't like something, change it."  Or just change something for the fun of it. :)
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Thursday, November 10, 2011

{day one : seven things that cross your mind a lot}

***Note: I am currently doing a 7 day blog challenge, where I blog based on writing prompts from this post***

1. My baby. Okay, I know I said I would be blogging about something besides my baby...but this one is a given. I stay at home full time to care for this little person. It's an investment, so I put in a lot of effort. I think about how he is developing, his sleep patterns, his eating schedule, new things we can do that will be stimulating for him.  I used to have a lot of time to think about myself: how I look, where I should go out this weekend, whether to do strength-training or cardio at the gym, and where my next vacation will be. Now those things all take a backseat to thoughts about the baby.  I have no idea when I'll get to the mall next to buy a hot new outfit.  I have no idea when I will fit {like I used to} in said "hot new outfit." I have no idea when I'll get to try that new restaurant or go on a movie date with my husband. What I do know is that I have a beautiful, healthy baby boy who is dependent on me. The other things are fun and lovely when they happen, but don't seem that important anymore.


2. Minnesota.  I miss my home state.  I miss the lakes, the clean air, the frigid winters {yes, even those} the farm I grew up on, my family, camping trips to the bwca, the "uff-das" and the "yah sures" and the church potlucks with the hotdishes galore.  I love that I have lived in different states and would be completely open to moving to other states and even other countries.  But my heart and soul will always be in Minnesota.
3. Food.  I try to eat healthy...but I love food.  Not fancy food, necessarily...just food in general. I catch myself looking forward to my morning coffee, bagel and yogurt.  I scour the internet for restaurants with interesting cuisine that I want to try {you know, on all those nights out I get now that we have a baby...} I will sometimes chug a Red Bull in the late afternoon just so I can have the energy to try cooking a new recipe.  My idea of the perfect night is great conversation, a bottle of wine, and some very simple, very good food.  


4. Tomorrow.  They say you should live for today.  Enjoy the moment you are in.  I am not so good at that.  I am always planning, plotting, dreaming of what I can accomplish in the future.  I make lists of goals, long-term and for the very next day.  I love to physically cross things off these lists.  It gives me a strange sense of satisfaction. 


5. Time.  I am very schedule-driven. I watch the clock like  a hawk.  I appreciate things occurring at their regularly scheduled time. I'm very punctual. I like to be early for things.  Except things that you really should not be early for...like parties.  Parties you should always be late.  {Believe me, the host appreciates people not arriving early or even right on time!} But I digress.


6. Mortality.  I often wonder how I will die.  I'm not exactly scared of death, but I would prefer to live a very long life. I also pray constantly for the safety of my husband and baby.  Morbid, right?  


7. God. What I mean is, I pray a lot. In my head.  Out loud.  While I drive.  While I'm brushing my teeth.  While I'm listening to my baby cry while he learns to self-soothe.   I pray that I make it to the end of the day with my sanity.  I pray that I can savor the happy moments. I pray that bad moments pass by quickly. I pray, as I said, for my family.  I pray for those that I know are hurting.  I pray that they pray, too.  Sometimes praying is honestly the only thing that gets me through the day...and I can't imagine not having that peace.
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Wednesday, November 9, 2011

seven day challenge: let's get real

I want to be challenged.  In my writing.  In my relationships.  In my life.  Due to this desire to be challenged I tend to challenge others.  Press them for honesty.  Try to break down the wall that so many put up.  Some people are very put off by this.  Others gravitate towards it.  I have had many people unexpectedly tell me their life stories, their deepest secrets, their greatest downfalls.


The very first night I met my husband he told me something extremely personal that he says he never talked about with anyone.   Years later I asked him why.  He still has no idea. In any case, I loved that we were able to connect on that level so quickly. 


Maybe it's because I've always been a button-pusher. A question-asker.  As a young kid I could easily get each of my siblings, in turn, to want to punch me in the face with my annoying button-pushing. {They never did...but there were a lot of close calls.}   I've never been much of a people-pleaser.   You know, keeping it surface-level and withholding my opinion so as not to cause any waves.  I can only stand so much small talk...then it's got to get real. When it comes to relationships,  I love happy people but you can't be happy and "roses and sunshine" all the time...you've got to show me a little darkness.  We all have it.  It is what gives us depth as humans.  If everyone was perfect and had no idiosyncrasies in their personality or heartache in their story what a very, very boring world it would be.  Differences are interesting, and happiness is only that because we have sadness to compare it to.


So the next seven days I will break from my typical "roses and sunshine" posts about cooking and babies and decorating {p.s. all things I genuinely do love} and go a little deeper.  Get more "real."  A little more revealing.
I came across a tumblr.com page {found here} dedicated to challenges. Hundreds of writing prompts, or, at the very least, questions to get you thinking.  I liked this one because it didn't seem too overwhelming or too silly,  and is relatively thought-provoking:
I figure this is a nice way to get back to creative writing and delve a little deeper than my usual posts.
So starting tomorrow things may get real. 
You ready?
:)
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Monday, November 7, 2011

sweet somethings from...fall

1. our little family travels throughout the czech republic, austria and germany


2. baby cormac's very first plane ride

3. door in Prague...so many beautiful things in that city!

4. kisses from grampa


 5. rose garden 

6. beautiful upside-down baby

 7. farmers market blooms

 8. balloon release!

9. toasting to being completely debt-free!


10. leaves

11. sisters with baby boys

love.love.love
fall
.
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Friday, November 4, 2011

today I baked! {blackberry cobbler}

If goat cheese is my favorite cheese,
then blackberries are my favorite fruit.

I eat them all summer.  I buy them at every farmers market I go to.  I never get sick of them.  Unless I eat too many at one time.  It is no wonder they named a phone after these juicy suckers.
 {Okay, I still wonder that.}

Anyway, now it is fall and I was informed last week when I was at a local fruit stand that blackberries are not exactly in season right now.  Wha?!?  They had none.  I didn't let that stop me.  I marched to the regular grocery store where they, praise Jesus, still had tons of blackberries.  Maybe not huge, amazing blackberries, but blackberries all the same.

So I bought two packs of blackberries and went home at made my very first cobbler.  I used the Blackberry Cobbler #1 recipe from the delicious Pioneer Woman blog.  I highly recommend as it is an extremely basic recipe that you can prepare in minutes and then throw it in the oven for one hour.  How sweet is that?







Mmmmmm...are you drooling yet?
Well, someone else was...

Someday Mac...someday.
:o)

Happy Friday, lovelies!
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